Have you ever felt like the “problem person” at church no matter how hard you tried?
In this episode of Hey Tabi, licensed trauma therapist Tabitha Westbrook explores what happens when churches unconsciously — or intentionally — scapegoat members instead of addressing dysfunction within the system itself.
Tabitha also explains how church scapegoating mirrors coercive control dynamics often seen in abusive relationships — including denial, minimization, emotional punishment, social isolation, and rewriting reality.
If you’ve ever:
…this episode is for you.
This conversation is honest, trauma-informed, compassionate, and deeply needed.
Resources Mentioned:
Transformational Topics Community - app.helloaudio.fm/feed/6907e1ce-23d2-4296-835e-5b478472f514/signup
Healthy Relationships Online Course - Use code RESET24 for 80% off - https://taking-every-thought-captive.teachable.com/p/relationships
At The Journey and The Process we strive to help you heal. Our therapists are trauma specialists who use evidence-based tools like EMDR, Brainspotting, Somatic Experiencing, and Internal Family Systems to help you heal - mind, soul, and body. Reach out today to start your healing journey. https://thejourneyandtheprocess.com/
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