Ever felt like the same argument keeps looping no matter how carefully you choose your words? We sit down with counselor and supervisor Dana Vince, owner of Healing Hearts Counseling, to unpack how Emotionally Focused Therapy helps couples break those cycles and rebuild real connection grounded in safety, clarity, and care.
Dana shares the story behind growing from a solo practice in Florida to a thriving group practice in East Tennessee and Western North Carolina alongside her partner, Adam York. We dig into the EFT approach—what it is, why it’s backed by research, and how it moves beyond talk and into targeted change. Instead of playing referee, a skilled therapist maps the interactional patterns that fuel disconnection, helps partners name the softer emotions under anger or withdrawal, and guides them to reach for each other in new, effective ways. That shift—from blame to understanding—makes space for trust, intimacy, and lasting repair.
We also tackle common myths about couples therapy, like the idea that a therapist will take sides or simply rehash last night’s fight. Dana explains how her team of fifteen clinicians creates a safe, nonjudgmental space while using structured interventions that clients can practice at home. Along the way, she offers a grounded reminder: every relationship struggles at times, and there’s no shame in asking for help. For those ready to learn more, Dana points to resources on her site and EFT literature that demystify the process and show what good couples work looks like day to day.
If you’re curious about how to turn conflict into connection—whether you’re in crisis or just want a stronger bond—this conversation delivers practical insights and hope. Subscribe, share with a friend who could use encouragement, and leave a review to tell us what topic you want us to explore next.
