Over the past few years, I have joined a handful of menopause support groups in facebook to offer support, see what women are talking about and maybe get a client?
I also have my own Facebook Group - Strong Women Over 40 where we offer weekly challenges to motivate our followers to think outside the box, make baby steps and start feeling better but it's not "sexy" and women are still temped to do “whatever it takes” to be smaller - EVEN IF it risks your health – life.
In these menopause, FB Groups, I see hundreds and hundreds of comments about this diet, that diet. Don’t do this. DO that. LOTS of posts and comments about GLP1, Ozempic, pills, clinics etc.
And the comments. WOW the comments. This is not healthy AT ALL. In fact, it’s borderline TOXIC. These are supposed to be menopause SUPPORT groups – not tear downs.
Watching these groups reminded me of Mom and baby groups,
Earlier in my career, I specialized in pregnancy and pp. Nothing more competitive than a group of new moms when it came to comparing their babies and their own postpartum weight loss.
I'm so glad that Facebook Groups weren’t around when I had daughters but when I was still in that world, I was IN those groups and witnessed the language and judgement and it was just like what I am seeing in these menopause spaces!
Like WTF ladies!!! WHY are we doing this to eachother? How is it that we are now in our 40’s and 50’s and still feel like we have to compete?
I will tell you why. It’s white supremacy. The system that has been set up that whiteness is the best AND there is a look at goes with that. The entire diet industry is based on white supremacy. Our weight, BMI, sizes. ALL created for the white person and this is the standard on which we have all been raised and we didn’t even know it.
Would it be so bad if you bought a few pieces now that fit your body well – so you look and FEEL good. Things aren’t being squished so you are constantly reminded that “you don’t fit” as opposed to, it doesn’t fit you. There IS a difference.
In the US, they are trying to get women’s rights back and ya’ll in these groups telling on eachother instead of being a united front!
So what would a Queen do? She would call on her people to rally together and support eachother AND she would do whatever she could to dismantle the patriarchy and white supremacy because this THIS hurts us all.
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