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In this heart-wrenching yet deeply affirming episode, Robyn shares the story of her daughter Freya, who was born sleeping at 38 weeks. With raw honesty, Robyn recounts the shock of receiving the news, the emotional and physical experience of labor and postpartum, and how she continues to mother Freya through grief, remembrance, and advocacy. 

Robyn talks about the stigma of stillbirth, the importance of being able to share photos of her daughter without censorship, and the harsh realities of parenting after loss. Through community, creativity, and daily rituals of remembrance—from bunny symbols to roses to reading aloud—Robyn has found a way to honor Freya while helping other loss parents feel seen. 

This is a story about grief that doesn’t follow a timeline, healing that doesn’t mean forgetting, and love that continues, always. 

🔗 Follow Robyn on Instagram at @dearfreyarae
📝 Read her blog: dearfreyarae.com
🌹 Resources and support for baby loss: 

• Tommy’s UK
• Stillbirth and Neonatal Death Society (Sands)
• Return to Zero: HOPE

Takeaways

• Robin was a vibrant, adventurous person before becoming a parent.
• Freya was born sleeping at 38 weeks, a devastating loss for Robin and her partner.
• The conversation emphasizes the lack of discussion around stillbirth and loss.
• Robin experienced a normal pregnancy until the heartbreaking news of Freya's passing.
• The support from midwives and family was crucial during Robin's time in the hospital.
• Robin's birth experience was quick but filled with shock and disbelief.
• The funeral for Freya was attended by many, showcasing the love and support from the community.
• Robin found solace in connecting with other lost mothers through social media.
• The grieving process is unique and cannot be rushed or planned.
• Robin emphasizes that not everything happens for a reason, and it's okay to feel anger and sadness. It's better to say something than nothing at all.
• People often forget that parents are still grieving long after loss.
• Grief can manifest in various ways, including joy and sadness.
• Talking about the lost child is crucial for the parents.
• There is no timeline for grief; it is a lifelong journey.
• Postpartum bodies still exist after loss, and healing is complex.

This episode discusses topics that may be triggering for some individuals. Please check the show notes for more information and be mindful of your own mental health and comfort levels.

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