Ever feel like you’re carrying everyone else’s life around with you? We dig into the hidden “fixer” habit that drains healers, coaches, empaths, and caring friends—and we offer a cleaner, kinder alternative that actually works. The heart of our take: you don’t heal other people. You help them remember how to heal themselves, and you do it by offering permission slips—simple tools and practices that make it safe for them to choose change.
We unpack why pedestal thinking (stones, sessions, gurus) creates dependency and burnout, and how reframing your role to observer and facilitator frees both sides. You’ll hear how to spot when you’re creating stories that trigger your own emotions, why that’s different from “absorbing” someone else’s pain, and how to choose tools that match the person’s beliefs so they can feel their own power. Then we get practical: boundaries that hold, consequences you actually enforce, and a clear line between judgment and self-respect. Boundaries aren’t about telling people how to live; they’re about how you live inside your bubble.
We also explore the difference between being tired and being done. Tired explains and negotiates; done is calm, clear, and willing to accept the cost of peace. One host shares a candid personal story of cutting ties with a toxic family dynamic and finding real relief on the other side—no drama, no apologies, just conviction. If you’ve been stuck in hero mode, this conversation offers a reset: less rescuing, more reminding; fewer emotional hangovers, more presence and energy.
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