Description

In this anonymous call, our caller shares the story of losing her brother and what it meant to walk alongside him as both a sister and a death doula. From the surreal moments of him “dying three times” before it stuck, to jokes over morphine doses and freezer chicken, to the signs he promised would show up after he was gone, the conversation blends heartbreak with humor in ways only death seems to invite.

She reflects on the importance of planning for death, the wisdom carried through ancestry, and the strange intimacy that comes with caring for someone at the end of life. And through it all, there’s laughter, ritual, and the reminder that even in grief, life keeps insisting on showing up.

In this episode, we discuss:

• Book recommendations: Collected Poems by Charles Bukowski and The Poetry of Mary Oliver
• Growing up without space for grief and finding her way into death work
• Caring for her brother as he went through the dying process
• The surreal experience of “dying three times” before his final death
• Morphine jokes, banquet chicken, and finding levity in loss
• Why she believes energy continues beyond the body
• The importance of advanced care planning and making your wishes known
• Rituals, ancestry, and how our loved ones live on through us

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About When We Die Talks: When We Die Talks is a podcast built around anonymous conversations about death, loss, and how contemplating mortality shapes the way we live. If you’re new here, start with the Episode Guide. It’s designed to help you find conversations that match where you’re at—curiosity, grief, hesitation, or openness.

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