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From the outside, your apology sounds fine.
 You said the words. You admitted what happened.
 But then⌠you added a âbut.â
âIâm sorry I snapped⌠but you were being disrespectful.â
 âI know I overreacted⌠but you started it.â
And just like that, your ownership disappears.
In todayâs episode of Better Husband, weâre talking about the most overlooked repair skill in relationships: full ownershipâwithout the âbut.âÂ
đď¸ The First Move Every Better Husband Makes: Full Ownership
What Youâll Learn in This Episode:
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Why most apologies donât landâand how to fix it
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What ârelational integrityâ really means (and how to live it)
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Why waiting for her to go first keeps you both stuck
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The simple mindset shift that builds emotional safety
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A 3-question framework to guide every repair conversation
Key Takeaways:
đĄ Adding âbutâ to your apology cancels out your ownership
đĄ You donât need to be wrong to take responsibility
đĄ A better husband goes firstâwithout needing anything back
Practical Action Steps:
1ď¸âŁ Notice where you defend or explain instead of owning
2ď¸âŁ Use the 3-step reflection: What did I do? How might she have felt? What will I do differently?
3ď¸âŁ Practice clean ownershipâno blaming, no defending, no âbutâ
4ď¸âŁ Try one repair this week without expecting anything in return
5ď¸âŁ Ask yourself: âDid I keep my side of the street clean today?â
Reflection Questions:
â Where do I tend to defend instead of own?
â How does my wife respond when I take full responsibility?
â What would change if I led the repairâwithout conditions?
Ready to Take Action?
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Questions?
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