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You can end the sexual acting out and still be living a double life. We open up about the painful space where porn stops but secrecy survives, and how that “respectable betrayal” quietly starves a relationship of safety, partnership, and desire. From hidden financial moves and unilateral decisions to trickle truth and using recovery as a shield, we trace how old dopamine loops find new disguises when accountability is missing.
We get honest about shame and inadequacy, the posture of entitlement in recovery clothing, and why defensiveness during hard conversations sends one message: it’s not safe to lean on me. Then we get practical. We outline clear non‑negotiables that rebuild trust in real time: full financial transparency, the 24‑hour rule for significant decisions, daily or weekly check‑ins, open devices, and proactive disclosure of anything that feels tempting to hide. We also draw a crucial distinction between honesty and transparency—one answers when asked, the other goes first so a partner doesn’t have to live like a detective.
This conversation challenges the myth that sobriety equals safety. Real repair begins when the double life ends across every domain—money, time, communication, and decisions—and when amends show up as consistent, boring integrity. If you’ve felt excluded, minimized, or asked to “trust the process” while staying in the dark, you’ll find language, tools, and validation here. And if you’re the wayward partner, you’ll hear a path forward grounded in humility, inclusion, and daily choices that make protection more than a promise.
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Intro & Outro music written, performed, and produced by Kim Capps.
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