Silence doesn’t stay silent. It turns into addictions, angry outbursts, shutdowns, and the kind of “I’m fine” that slowly drains your relationships. This one is heavy, personal, and honest: Tim Ross joins me to talk about trauma, sexual abuse, shame, and why so many of us chase distraction when what we really need is peace. Not the vague, spiritual kind that disappears the moment life gets hard, but a grounded peace tied to nervous system regulation and emotional stability.
Tim shares his story and the framework behind his book The Missing Peace, including why breaking the silence is the first real step in trauma recovery. We unpack the difference between numbing and healing, how men get conditioned to suppress their voice and their tears, and why the body will keep “acting out” when it doesn’t have words. We also walk through a practical recovery sequence: safety and stabilization, remembrance, and integration, so the worst thing that happened to you becomes part of your life story rather than the definition of your identity.
We also go straight at the tension many people feel between church and therapy, how judgment and secrecy can wreck leaders and families, and what it looks like to be fully seen, fully heard, fully known, and fully loved even when there isn’t full agreement. If you’ve ever thought, “I should be over this by now,” this conversation gives you language, tools, and a next step you can take today.
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