What happens when competence becomes armor… and rest starts to feel unsafe?
In this deeply personal episode, Anna shares the hidden cost of always being “the strong one.” From a childhood decision to self-protect to decades of wearing emotional armor, she unpacks how high-functioning women often confuse strength with self-isolation.
If you’re the capable one.
The reliable one.
The one who says “I’ve got it” even when you’re exhausted…
This conversation is for you.
Anna explores how resilience can quietly turn into self-containment, how feminine energy gets suppressed in survival mode, and why true strength includes allowing yourself to be supported.
You don’t have to do it all alone.
Key moments you’ll hear in this episode:
00:00 – The belief that shaped everything: “The world is unsafe, I must protect myself”
01:45 – Armor, identity, and the exhaustion of never being held
03:30 – When competence becomes protection (and isolation)
05:10 – Why rest feels unsafe for high-functioning women
06:30 – Strength without softness = loneliness
08:00 – The nervous system and belonging through self-reliance
09:30 – Giving easily, receiving awkwardly
10:15 – Breaking the cycle: strength AND softness
11:00 – Where are you defaulting to “I’ve got this”?
12:00 – You don’t have to earn rest by being strong first
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