Most marriages have one spouse who is more interested in sex, and another who is less interested. This is desire difference. While this is normal--most marriages have a desire difference one way or another--it causes a lot of tension in marriages.
Sarah brings on her husband, Nathan, to talk about understanding desire difference from a husband's point of view at a deeper level. Beyond just physical libido, he shares about the yearning for connection with their wives he hears from men he's worked with who have the higher desire. He also shares what it's like for the husband who has the lower desire.
Understanding is key, and so are actionable skills that couples can use to help navigate the different factors at work.
Sarah and Nathan point some paths forward to creating more connection--including not making sex the only source of connection in the marriage.
They discuss the importance of recognizing the wife's mental load, and how the wife and husband can work with that.
Affirmation and gratitude, non-sexual touch, empathy, and curiousity all help husbands and wives grow closer, feel seen, feel like they matter to the other, and grow in their unity and emotional connection.
Catholic husbands interested in Nathan's free Desires Differences workshop can join here through March 12th. Replays of past calls are available.
Desires Differences Workshop:
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