For most of my life, I thought I just loved deeply, felt deeply, cared more, and was more emotional and intense than others, which often led to me feeling like I was too much. What I didn't understand yet was that my nervous system was often leading the way rather than the conscious, regulated part of me. Once I learned about attachment styles, everything clicked.
Your attachment styles aren’t personality traits or labels; they’re alarms from your nervous system. How we attached when we were younger was really how we learned to deal with emotional pain. Not intellectually or consciously, but emotionally and in our bodies.
In the next four episodes, I'm going to break each attachment style down so we can dig deeper into each one. But for now, I’m giving an overview of what each attachment style looks like so you can start to identify the patterns that sound familiar to you.
The goal of this work isn’t to shut the alarm off, it’s to get curious about what those alarms are signaling. Once you understand the signal, you no longer have to obey it. You can listen, regulate, and choose something more aligned.
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