Anxious attachment carries the sword, looking for a fight. Avoidant attachment carries the shield, looking to protect. With ambivalent attachment, you carry both. You'll both fight for closeness and then protect yourself from it. You'll reach and then retreat. You'll crave intimacy and then also feel trapped by it.
Ambivalent attachment is the ‘freeze’ response. Your nervous system is overwhelmed by two opposing impulses: move towards, move away. And when both impulses are loud, you stall. This episode, I’m covering how inconsistency and unpredictability in childhood leads to the ambivalent attachment wound, the cost of remaining in this freeze response, and ways to rebuild trust with yourself through aligned actions.
You're not trapped any more. You can leave, you can stay. You can ask, you can say no. You can change your mind, and you can trust that whatever happens next, you’ll not only survive it, but you can alchemize it to wisdom, growth, and healing.
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