In this episode, Chris and Jen talk about how to enjoy busy seasons—like the holidays—without becoming overbooked, overwhelmed, or stuck in “just get through it” mode. They explore why saying no can feel so hard, how guilt shows up around obligations, and what it really means to choose your own joy while still honoring relationships.
Drawing on insights from The Life-Changing Magic of Not Giving a F* (Sarah Knight), The Power of a Positive No (William Ury), and Set Boundaries, Find Peace (Nedra Glover Tawwab), they discuss practical ways to set boundaries, reframe expectations, and say yes to yourself without shame. This conversation is an invitation to slow down, protect your energy, and experience the holidays with more intention and ease.
The Life-Changing Magic of not giving a F*** - Sarah Knight
The Power of a Positive No - William Ury
Set Boundaries, Find Peace - Nedra Glover Tawwab
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Chapters
00:00 Introduction and Friendship Dynamics
00:13 Navigating the Holiday Season
04:45 Gratitude and Civic Engagement
09:03 Finding Joy in Hobbies
12:12 The Challenge of Saying No
16:50 Understanding People-Pleasing Behavior
20:58 Book Recommendations for Boundaries
21:10 The Art of Saying No
26:27 Understanding Boundaries and Their Importance
30:17 The Neuroscience Behind Decision Making
43:08 Practical Steps to Assertive Communication
01:00:25 Finding Balance: When to Say Yes
01:02:18 Finding Joy in Parenting Choices
01:04:02 The Importance of Prioritizing Time and Energy
01:05:06 Navigating Family Traditions and Changes
01:07:00 Evaluating Obligations vs. Joy
01:07:56 Understanding Physical Responses to Stress
01:10:38 Balancing Joy and Obligations
01:12:56 Setting Boundaries for Self-Care
01:14:49 Mindful Decision-Making During the Holidays
01:16:11 Engaging with the Audience and Community
01:19:17 Outro
