Thanks to FIFTY SHADES OF GREY and the most recent Nicole Kidman film BABY GIRL, people are now more curious about fetishes and sex positivity than ever before. Let's explore!
The Guest
Jefe has been actively involved in fetish communities for decades.
Resources
Avoid dating apps, try these alternative digital Resources;
The app Plura at https://heyplura.com/
Developed at Y-Combinator by an entrepreneur with background in VR and social media with a desire to create a better way for people to connect beyond superficial swiping on dating apps. Focuses on events, inclusivity, and a safer space for exploring alternative sexuality.
The website Fetlife.com
Massive kink website, designed to be a fetish-Facebook, can be overwhelming, and lacking in clear, effective moderation. Excellent resource for events across the US, and overseas. Problematic reputation with respect to preventing people who have been harmed from speaking out against folks who have done them wrong.
https://www.reddit.com/r/BDSMpersonals/
Platform for individuals to post personal ads seeking partners for BDSM activities. Users can specify their interests, experience levels, and desired dynamic.
https://www.reddit.com/r/BDSMAdvice/
A valuable resource for learning and getting support, but users should always verify information and consult with experienced practitioners or professionals when needed. The quality of advice can vary, so critical thinking is important.
https://www.reddit.com/r/EthicalNonMonogamy/
Great place to connect with others in the ENM community and learn about different approaches. However, like any online forum, it's important to be mindful of differing opinions and experiences, and to develop your own informed understanding of ENM.
Article
Why Gen X Women Are Having the Best Sex - NY Times
https://www.nytimes.com/2025/02/05/magazine/sex-gen-x-women.html
Books
“More” Molly Roden Winter
"Come As You Are: The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life" Emily Nagoski
"The Ethical Slut" Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy
"Mating in Captivity" Esther Perel
"Sex at Dawn: How We Mate, Why We Stray, and What It Means for Modern Relationships" by Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jethá
"Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Intimate Relationships" by Tristan Taormino
Mookie's Blogs
Sexless Marriage
https://mookiespitz.medium.com/the-story-of-my-sexless-marriage-2b943adc36d3
Male Multiple Orgasm (future episode)
