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Episode 12: Porn & Relationships (Part 2) — LGBTQ+ Dynamics, Solo vs Shared Use, Betrayal, and How Couples Heal
Season 1 — Pornography in Context
Why does porn strengthen some relationships and fracture others? How do solo vs. shared use, secrecy, LGBTQ+ identity, and emotional safety shape a couple’s experience with pornography? And what actually helps couples repair when porn becomes a source of hurt?
In this expansive and deeply compassionate continuation of the series, Dr. Mallorie Sorce takes you beyond the heterosexual scripts that dominate porn research and explores how pornography shows up across diverse relationships. From LGBTQ+ identity and erotic affirmation to secrecy, trust ruptures, solo use, shared use, and full relational repair, Mallorie unpacks the complex emotional meaning behind pornography in romantic partnerships.
This episode blends personal experience, research, clinical wisdom, and real-life examples to help listeners understand why porn can be a bridge—or a wedge—and what couples can do when it becomes a point of conflict.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
- How LGBTQ+ partners use porn for identity, affirmation, and exploration
- Why porn can be empowering, confusing, or identity-shaping depending on context
- The emotional differences between solo vs shared porn use
- Why secrecy—not porn—is one of the strongest predictors of relationship distress
- How hidden porn use becomes an attachment injury and why it feels like betrayal
- Why female partners often experience secrecy with porn as deep emotional abandonment
- How male and female solo use reflect different motivations and emotional landscapes
- How porn can both erode and enhance intimacy depending on communication and safety
- Why acceptance (not total agreement) is the most powerful predictor of relational stability
- The role of sexual scripts in shaping desire, expectations, and insecurities
- How porn impacts emerging adult relationships and why this generation is struggling most
- Why transparency, values-based boundaries, and emotional responsiveness matter more than rules
- What healing actually looks like after secrecy, betrayal, or rupture
- How evidence-based therapy models—CBT, ACT, IBCT, Sex Therapy, and EFT—help couples reconnect
- Why porn isn’t the real issue—disconnection is
Perfect for listeners who:
- Feel hurt, confused, or anxious about a partner’s porn use
- Want to understand solo vs shared use with nuance, not judgment
- Are LGBTQ+ individuals navigating erotic identity and representation
- Are healing from secrecy, betrayal, or emotional distance
- Want to rebuild intimacy and trust after a rupture
- Are looking for science-backed, shame-free guidance
- Want practical tools for talking about porn in a safe, grounded way
Mallorie offers clarity, compassion, and a deeply human perspective:
Porn isn’t inherently good or bad—it’s meaningful. And when couples learn to talk about that meaning, connection becomes possible again.
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