Four in five adults with dyslexia were never diagnosed as children — leaving many men to carry decades of shame, frustration, and self-doubt.
In this episode of American Masculinity, licensed therapist and veteran Tim Wienecke sits down with Russell Van Brocklen, a dyslexia specialist and program leader, to unpack how undiagnosed learning differences reshape identity and self-worth. Together they explore why boys are so often mislabeled as “behavior problems,” how early shame takes root, and what happens when the right tools finally arrive.
Russell shares research-backed insights showing that effective, targeted interventions can dramatically improve reading skills — sometimes by a full grade level or more. The conversation also dives into what families can realistically do at the kitchen table: how to create safety, curiosity, and practical support even when parents don’t have all the answers.
🎯 Key Takeaways
• Four in five adults with dyslexia were never diagnosed in childhood
• Why boys are often flagged for behavior instead of supported for learning
• How shame forms early — and why it’s so hard to shake
• What research says about effective reading interventions
• Why diagnosis can turn shame into strategy
• How families can help without blame or frustration
⏱️ Chapters
00:00 — Cold Open · Dyslexia, Diagnosis & Getting the Right Tools
02:10 — When the Right Help Works · Research vs. Results
05:10 — Boys, Behavior & Being Misunderstood
14:40 — The Shame Factor · How Misunderstanding Hurts Kids
30:50 — Why Diagnosis Changes Everything
45:20 — Support Isn’t Family Failure · It’s About Tools
1:11:30 — Closing Reflections · Fact Checks & Nuance
📚 Books Mentioned
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✅ Fact Check Highlights
• Undiagnosed Dyslexia is Widespread — Supported by International Dyslexia Association (2024)
• Early Tools Drive Growth — 60 % of struggling readers gain a full grade level with proper interventions (Wanzek et al., 2018)
• Boys Often Misdiagnosed as Behavior Problems (Wagner et al., 2020; Radez et al., 2024)
• Shame Is a Lasting Emotional Cost (Polychroni et al., 2024)
Full show notes: https://americanmasculinity.com/16-dyslexia-and-men
🎙️ The American Masculinity Podcast™ is hosted by Timothy Wienecke MA LPC LAC — psychotherapist, Air Force veteran, and men’s advocate. Each episode explores how men can navigate identity, relationships, and mental health with grounded tools — not yelling or clichés.
If today’s episode resonated, share it with someone who’s struggled to learn differently, or a parent who’s looking for hope and strategy.
The American Masculinity Podcast™ is hosted by Timothy Wienecke — licensed psychotherapist, Air Force veteran, and men’s advocate.
Real conversations about masculinity, mental health, growth, and how men can show up better — as partners, leaders, and friends.
We focus on grounded tools, not yelling or clichés. If you have questions or want a tool for something you're wrestling with, leave a comment or send a message — your feedback shapes what we build next.
Note: While this doesn’t replace therapy, it might help you notice something worth exploring.
