Description

Desire can feel slippery in midlife.
Maybe you don’t know what you want anymore.
Or maybe you do—but it feels too big, too selfish, too risky to say out loud.

In this episode, I share the deeper reasons why wanting can feel so fraught for midlife women—and offer a new, gentle way to begin listening again. I introduce you to the WANT Framework, a soulful tool to help you tell yourself the truth about your desires without shame or pressure.

Whether your longings are whispering or roaring right now, this episode will help you start walking toward them with more clarity and compassion.

What You’ll Learn

• Why desire can feel unsafe or unavailable for midlife women—and why it’s not your fault
• A new way to relate to your longings using the WANT Framework
• The difference between desire as performance vs. desire as truth
• Why tending to your wants is an act of generative selfishness
• Real-life examples of how to make your desires feel more artful, embodied, and doable
• What it means to reclaim your aliveness without rushing or overhauling your life

Bookmarks

🍒 “We’ve been trained to ask, ‘What’s realistic?’ before ‘What lights me up?’”

🍒 “Lingering in limbo—half wanting, half dismissing, half judging yourself—wears you out.”

🍒 “Sometimes we inherit dreams like heirlooms. They look precious—but they don’t quite fit.”

Seed to carry with you: What’s one desire you’ve been whispering to yourself… but haven’t dared say out loud?

Want to Go Deeper? 

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Original theme music by Dustin Hofsess.

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