What if the strength you’ve been chasing was waiting in the softness you’ve been avoiding? That question sits at the heart of our conversation with human design mentor Kali Tougas, whose story arcs from paramedic grit in a male-dominated field to a life led by deep body wisdom, seasonal rhythms, and a more generous definition of power. We dive into the moment grief broke the spell of proving, and how that rupture made space for a voice that feels steady, not forced.
Kali unpacks confidence as self-trust rather than performance, and why “boundaries” sometimes back us into boxes we don’t need. Her alternative, drawing a line in the sand - honors context and compassion without losing clarity. Together, we examine the hidden costs of stoicism taught in EMS and the healing that comes from naming feelings, debriefing, and letting tenderness back in. From there, we explore how human design becomes a practical, everyday tool: choosing slow mornings if they fit your energy, letting momentum lead on high days, and parenting by understanding how your child’s design truly operates.
We also talk identity after leaving a calling. When a career becomes family, stepping away can feel like losing yourself. Kali offers a way back: ask where you’re losing power, wait out emotional highs before saying yes, and return to your body’s signals as the final authority. Whether you’re a manifesting generator craving flexibility or a projector who needs rest to thrive, you’ll hear simple, humane steps to align your work, home, and inner world without apology.
If you’re ready to stop proving and start aligning, press play. Then subscribe, share this with a friend who needs it, and leave a quick review to help more women find their fire. What line in the sand are you drawing this week?
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