If you’ve ever finished a workday, sat down to scroll for a few hours, and wondered why life still feels flat, uninspired, or strangely empty… this episode is for you.
In this episode of I Mean This In The Nicest Way Possible, RAM delivers a loving but necessary reminder: you need a hobby. Not because you need to be more productive, but because you need to participate in your own life.
This week, RAM unpacks why hobbies are not childish, frivolous, or something you earn after all your responsibilities are handled. They are one of the most overlooked tools for mental health, personal growth, and maintaining a sense of identity outside of work. From writing and music to gaming, gardening, art, cars, and countless other passions, he explores why curiosity deserves a permanent place in adulthood.
You’ll hear about:
• Why hobbies act as protection against burnout and emotional stagnation
• The difference between participation and passive consumption
• How hobbies create flow, fulfillment, and genuine satisfaction
• Why scrolling can leave you exhausted while hobbies leave you energized
• The role hobbies play in protecting identity outside of work
• How perfectionism quietly stops people from trying new things
• Why being bad at something is often the first step toward becoming good at it
Then RAM gets personal. He shares why writing, recording, music, and creating are not optional extras in his life, but essential practices that help him process emotions, stay connected to himself, and create meaning beyond work or obligation. He reflects on how quickly life starts to feel hollow when creativity and curiosity are pushed aside.
You’ll also learn:
• How to choose hobbies based on curiosity instead of appearances
• Why active leisure supports mental health more than passive entertainment
• How trying new hobbies builds confidence and adaptability
• Why rituals work better than motivation when building hobbies into your life
• How hobbies help make you a more engaged, interesting, and fulfilled person
And because this show is about action, not just awareness, RAM introduces The Have A Hobby Challenge, which is a simple invitation to revisit one hobby you've neglected and intentionally make space for it this week.
This is not about becoming an expert.
It is not about creating a side hustle.
It is about giving yourself permission to engage with something that makes you feel alive.
If you’ve got 24 minutes, RAM means this in the nicest way possible:
You need an f-ing hobby.
Because the kindest thing you can do… is be real.
