Want a calmer, truer way to talk about sex? We sit down with sex-positive therapist Gabby Lopez to explore how real intimacy grows when we move past “Is this normal?” and start asking “Am I enjoying this?” From the first minutes, we dig into what sex therapy does differently: it brings sex into the room without shame, pairs it with nervous system health, and treats pleasure as an essential part of well-being rather than an optional extra.
Gabby breaks down two desire styles—spontaneous and responsive—and explains why many couples mistake mismatched desire for a broken bond. We look closely at the orgasm gap, the hidden pressure of frequency, and how stress, pain, and exhaustion shut down arousal. You’ll hear grounded strategies for reconnecting: easing the body into safety after long days, using accurate language to replace stigma, and choosing practical tools that make pleasure easier, like lube, toys, and gentle pacing. We also name the difference between sexual chemistry and emotional safety, and why vulnerability often reads as more erotic than polished confidence.
If you’re navigating trauma, attachment patterns, or the myths surrounding sex and aging, this conversation offers patient guidance. Consent starts earlier than most people think, and using correct anatomy—vulva included—helps many women access pleasure and advocate for themselves. We share simple rituals that work: weekly check-ins about enjoyment, playful curiosity over performance, and even scheduling intimacy to reduce friction. The goal isn’t to meet an external standard; it’s to create a sex life that fits your nervous systems, values, and season of life.
Press play to learn how to talk without shame, design encounters that honor both partners, and rebuild self-trust one honest question at a time. If this resonates, subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review to help more listeners find conversations that make intimacy feel safer, kinder, and more fun.
