Setting boundaries with someone who has an addiction is crucial for everyone involved. Here's a concise summary of the key principles:
- Know Your Limits: Understand what you can and cannot tolerate. This forms the foundation of all your boundaries.
- Communicate Clearly: State your boundaries directly and without apology. Use "I" statements to focus on your needs, not their behavior.
- Be Consistent: Follow through on what you say you will do. Inconsistency weakens boundaries and creates confusion.
- Practice Self-Care: Setting boundaries is draining. Prioritize your own well-being to maintain your strength and emotional resilience.
- Avoid Enabling: Boundaries prevent you from doing things for them that they are capable of doing themselves, which can worsen the addiction.
- Prepare for Pushback: Expect them to react negatively. This resistance is a normal, though difficult, part of the process.
- Build a Support System: You don't have to do this alone. Rely on a therapist, a support group, or trusted friends and family to help you stay strong.
