Looking for a smarter way to date and a calmer way to love? We welcome matchmaker and relationship coach Julia Bendis of Match by Julia for a candid conversation about how real connection beats perfect checklists. Julia shares how her Orange County roots grew into a global coaching practice built on straight talk, practical skills, and a thriving network of referrals. The result is an honest look at what actually works: clear nonnegotiables, consistent follow-through, and a supportive community that lightens the load on your partner.
We unpack persistent myths about matchmaking—why no one can conjure a flawless “unicorn,” and how realistic expectations unlock better matches. Julia explains how coaching helps at every stage: sharpening your online dating profile, spotting green flags, setting boundaries on pace and communication, and turning early dates into low-pressure experiments. For couples, we explore everyday habits that protect trust and intimacy, from scheduled check-ins to purposeful fun that keeps curiosity alive.
Community emerges as a core theme. Drawing on a perspective echoed by leading therapists, Julia emphasizes building a village—friends, mentors, and social circles—so one person doesn’t have to be your entire emotional world. She also opens up about creative outlets like writing, podcasting, and stand-up comedy, and how staying authentic online fuels word-of-mouth growth. If you want a relationship that feels grounded and joyful, you’ll find clear steps and frank encouragement here.
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