Change doesn’t stall because you lack discipline; it stalls because your biology is doing its job.
In this episode we sit down with licensed psychotherapist and nervous system practitioner Eliza Kingsford to unpack why your system is “ground zero” for every thought, feeling, word, and action—and how to make that work for you instead of against you.
From the moment overwhelm hits, executive function dims and autopilot takes over. That’s why the salad you packed loses to the Oreos after a tense email. The fix isn’t force. It’s learning your cues and signals and picking the right regulation tools for your current state.
Eliza breaks down the brain–mind distinction with a clear metaphor: the brain is hardware, the mind is software. If your software says “change is hard” or “I always regain weight,” your hardware runs that code on repeat to conserve energy. We dig into homeostasis, automaticity, and the brain’s daily energy budget, showing how identity and beliefs quietly steer behavior.
The hopeful turn: neuroplasticity and epigenetics prove the software can be updated. Not by chanting affirmations over old code, but by surfacing beliefs, getting curious, and practicing new responses while regulated enough to learn.
Listening to this episode you’ll leave with a kinder framework: map your activation and shutdown cues, build a personal menu of tools, and use curiosity questions to guide real change. If you’re ready to stop fighting yourself and start working with your biology, this conversation offers science, stories, and practical steps.
If this resonated, follow the show, share it with a friend who needs relief from overwhelm, and leave a review telling us one cue you’re going to track this week.
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Here's how you can connect with Eliza:
Website: https://www.elizakingsford.com/
Instagram: www.instagram.com/elizakingsford
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