In this episode, Laura and Ali go deep (as always!) on what it really means to take radical responsibility, for your healing, your reactions, and your role as a healer or coach. They explore the uncomfortable feelings that come up when we see others doing similar work to us, why comparison and competition trigger us, and what that reveals about our own inner work still to do.
They also get beautifully raw about grief, how it shows up unexpectedly, why there's no timeline on it, and why allowing yourself to feel it fully is one of the most powerful healing tools available.
Key Takeaways
- Every healer needs a healer. Every coach needs a coach. Doing your own inner work isn't optional, it's a duty of care to yourself and your clients.
- Comparison is a mirror. When someone else's success triggers you, it's pointing to something within you that still needs healing, not a reason to compete.
- There's not one pot of success. (Credit: Natasha Bray) Everyone has their own pot, abundance isn't a finite resource.
- Your ego is doing its job when it flags perceived threats. The key is to notice it, acknowledge it, and let it go quickly rather than spiralling.
- Radical Responsibility means taking full ownership of your choices, learning from every path, even when it didn't go the way you hoped, without blame or victim mindset.
- Grief has no timeline. Don't put one on it. Allow it to come when it's ready. Suppressing it only means it surfaces later, often in ways you don't expect.
- Crying is a healing tool. Tears release oxytocin, nature's pain relief. Holding back tears is literally telling your body not to send you what you need.
- Healers who haven't done their own deep work can still help people, but self-awareness of this is crucial.
Books & Tools
We are not paid for recommendations but love shouting out about the things we love, the people that have helped and what works for us.
- Natasha Bray's Heart Healing Cards — beautiful card deck used at the close of every episode. This episode's card: Radical Responsibility. Purchase here.
- The Signs Book by Dr Tara Swart —Purchase here.
People
- Natasha Bray — creator of the Heart Healing Cards; quote referenced: "There's not one pot of success". Connect with her here.
- Victoria Dio — Healer and friend. Connect with her here.
- Dipti — Laura's grief counsellor. Connect with her here.
Connect & Promote
- Laura's sound baths & Heart Healing business — Book now.
- Wellness Toolbox - See more here.
- Ali has been nominated for Coach of the Year as part of the Eon Apprenticeship & Skills Awards — go Ali!
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Mind Charity UK
https://www.mind.org.uk/need-urgent-help/using-this-tool/
Samaritans UK
https://www.samaritans.org/how-we-can-help/contact-samaritan/
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