Discover how surrender, rather than control, can transform the adoptee’s healing journey. In this episode, Julie explores the deep psychological and somatic stages of adoptee awareness and how embracing surrender leads to genuine self-belonging.
In this episode:
Chapters:
00:00 - Introduction to the core issue: surrender over control in adoptee healing
00:31 - Why mastery and control are misconceptions—what's really happening underneath
01:01 - The impact of early loss and trauma on control responses
02:01 - How survival strategies turn into ways of living for adoptees
02:25 - Brene Brown’s concept of wholehearted living rooted in gratitude and spirituality
03:19 - The role of surrender and trust in healing from trauma
04:09 - The adoptee consciousness model overview and its cyclical nature
06:42 - The five touchstones of awareness: from status quo to transcendence
07:25 - Stage 1: Sleep — acceptance of the dominant narrative without questioning
09:09 - Stage 2: The rupture — disorienting insights that challenge the status quo
11:14 - Stage 3: Dissonance — emotional unrest, conflicting beliefs, and emerging identities
13:23 - Stage 4: Expansiveness — integrating truths, setting boundaries, and defining your narrative
14:34 - Stage 5: Forgiveness and activism — surrender as a radical act of agency
16:33 - Reflection prompts: identifying your current touchstone and practicing surrender
17:36 - Physical practices for releasing control and cultivating self-compassion
19:03 - Resources on adoptee awareness models and healing pathways
19:52 - Upcoming event: Unmothered - a revolution in adoptee healing
20:05 - Closing thoughts and encouragement for your healing journey
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