In this episode, I dive deep into the concept of people-pleasing and its impact on our health and well-being. I explore the challenges faced by women in saying no and how this behavior stems from avoiding conflict and the need to control others' emotional responses. Throughout the episode, I share personal experiences with people pleasing and how it can manifest in various aspects of life. I also discuss the importance of setting boundaries, practicing self-compassion, and seeking coaching and support to overcome this tendency.
Join me as I break down the effects of people pleasing and the importance of prioritizing our own needs over accommodating others, especially for women in midlife. Don't forget to prioritize your well-being and have an amazing week!
People pleasing is the tendency to prioritize other people's needs and desires over our own, often at the cost of our own well-being. This behavior is not the same as kindness, generosity, or altruism, but rather an inability to say no and a constant need for approval from others.
Women are often taught that it's better to give than to receive and to prioritize others' opinions over their own. This discussion includes the realization that people-pleasing behaviors often stem from avoiding conflict and the need to control others' emotional responses. We also examine the importance of accepting negative emotions in ourselves and others to help overcome the need to people please.
We examine how people-pleasing behaviors can manifest in our lives and negatively impact our health. This can happen when we agree to go out to dinner or order in when we've already planned a meal, give in to others' wants to avoid conflict or struggle and take on more work around the house to avoid dealing with others' bad moods. Recognizing the problem, setting boundaries, practicing self-compassion, and hiring a coach can help combat these tendencies.
We explore the consequences of people-pleasing and the importance of prioritizing our own needs over accommodating others. This is especially relevant for women in midlife, as it can significantly impact their health.
"By letting go of the need to please others, we reclaim our power and prioritize our own well-being." - Elizabeth Sherman
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