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In this episode of Your Mind, Your Rules, Marisa Peer explores why the emptiness you feel cannot be filled with food, wine, shopping, followers, or even another person’s love.
Marisa reveals the seven essential needs every child is born with — and what happens when those needs are not met. As children, we often make decisions like:
“I am not wanted.”
“I am not important.”
“No one is coming.”
“I have to earn love.”
“It will always be this way.”
Decades later, those old childhood decisions can still be running in the subconscious mind. They may show up as overeating, overspending, neediness, chasing validation, or waiting for a partner to fix the pain we have not yet faced.
Watch now to understand the childhood needs underneath emotional emptiness — and how to begin giving your mind a new instruction.
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TIMESTAMPS:
0:00 The emptiness my clients describe
0:40 Why you can't fill an emotional void with stuff
1:30 Where the emptiness actually comes from
1:40 The four core needs every baby has
2:20 Loved, safe, connected, significant: why they're different
2:40 Three more needs you pick up as you grow
3:00 The seven core needs, in full
3:20 Why these needs never go away
3:40 Tagging: "it will always be this way"
4:00 Learned helplessness and learned hopelessness
4:30 Why a child always takes the blame
5:40 "I wasn't loved, so I'll never have love"
6:40 Making it your partner's job, and what happens when they can't
7:40 The fix: meet your own unmet needs
8:40 NEED ONE: to be loved
9:40 Your brain finds evidence for whatever you tell it
10:40 "I love Bridget just the way she is"
11:40 The four reactions people have to saying it out loud
12:40 The love I want wants me
13:40 Why some people raised badly become wonderful parents
14:40 State it, affirm it, embody it
15:40 NEED TWO: to be significant
16:40 Why you must never quantify it
17:40 Mattering is your birthright
18:40 NEED THREE: to be safe
19:40 You could survive alone, but people need people
20:40 Your brain doesn't care if you're slim or rich
21:40 Safe to ask, safe to date, safe to be seen
22:40 TRY THIS: I'm safe to…
23:40 NEED FOUR: to be connected
24:40 Online is a start, but you need real connection
26:40 Joining in feels scary because it's unfamiliar
27:40 If you want connection, you have to connect
28:40 NEED FIVE: to be seen and heard
29:40 NEED SIX: one person who believes in you
30:40 Be that person for someone else
31:40 NEED SEVEN: to be celebrated
32:40 "Look at you. You are…"
33:40 Sing your own song
34:40 Three weeks, a few minutes a day
35:40 You don't need more cake, more wine, more followers
36:40 Nobody should spend Christmas or Valentine's feeling this
37:40 Start today, and send it to someone who needs it
38:40 Responsibility means the ability to respond
Connect with Marisa Peer:
Website: https://www.marisapeer.com
Buy Your Mind Your Rules: https://link.rtt.com/4yve09F
Instagram: @marisapeertherapy
Learn more about Rapid Transformational Therapy and Training: https://link.rtt.com/4AqoasP
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