What if you’ve become so good at adapting to everyone else’s expectations… that you’ve forgotten who you are?
In this episode, Dr. Phebe Brako sits down with author, finance professional, and Stories Beyond Borders host Urmi Hossain for an honest conversation about growing up between cultures, chasing success, and searching for an identity that feels like home.
They unpack what it means to be fluent in multiple languages but struggle to express your own emotions, the pressure immigrant children face to prioritize stability over self-discovery, and why so many high-achieving immigrant daughters secretly battle guilt when choosing themselves.
They also explore:
Why success doesn’t automatically lead to self-worth
How code-switching can shape your identity
The hidden emotional labor of constantly adapting
What self-love looks like beyond motivational quotes
The immigrant habits that never leave you, no matter how successful you become
If you’ve ever felt too much for one culture, not enough for another, or wondered which version of yourself is the “real” one, this conversation is for you.
Because sometimes the hardest language to learn isn’t English, French, or Bengali…
It’s learning how to speak honestly about your own needs.
🎙️ Tune in for a conversation that will leave you laughing, reflecting, and maybe texting your sibling, “Did they secretly interview our family?”
Learn more about Urmi and her amazing work at https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCZoiI0SGU0Xo9_lNjtLWtgg and follow her on IG @urmamio
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