You're the responsible one. The strong one. The one who knows better. But who takes care of the first daughter?
In many immigrant families, being the first daughter isn't just a birth order. It's an unpaid, lifelong position you never applied for.
In this episode of Between Two Worlds with Dr. Phebe, Dr. Phebe sits down with a fellow first daughter and therapist - Khadijah Layne, LMFT, to unpack the invisible expectations placed on eldest daughters, from becoming the family's second parent to learning that obedience, sacrifice, and silence are the ingredients for being a "good daughter."
But what happens when being obedient means abandoning yourself? When setting boundaries feels like disrespect? And when you've been taught that your blessings depend on how well you please everyone else?
Together, they explore the emotional cost of being the dependable daughter, the complicated relationship between cultural expectations and self-worth, and how these childhood roles follow us into adulthood, relationships, and motherhood.
Because maybe the greatest blessing isn't being the daughter everyone approves of. Maybe it's finally becoming the woman you were always meant to be.
If you've ever been called "so mature for your age" while quietly carrying everyone else's responsibilities, this episode is for you.
Learn more about Khadijah, who is Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist and a part of a group practice; Create a Mindful Moment LLC.
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