Every Friday, host Sandy Davis and co-host Claudia Cuevas, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, sit down for the Architecture of Reinvention Roundtable to go deeper into the themes from that week's guest conversation.
This week, following Deb Boulanger's episode, Sandy and Claudia trace where limiting beliefs about self-worth actually come from, tracing them back past the corporate paycheck to childhood, to a critical parent or a teacher's gold star, and the moment approval first became something to be earned rather than given.
Claudia breaks down the difference between having self-worth and earning it, and introduces a simple technique she uses with high-achieving clients: trading affirmations for positive questions, always anchored in today. Sandy tests it live on air, and the result is the kind of on-air realization listeners will recognize in themselves.
They also talk through the moving-goalpost trap, why hitting a financial or career milestone so rarely feels like enough, and why journaling feels impossible until you shrink the page down to two lines.
Deb Boulanger is the founder and CEO of Life After Corporate, a business mentorship company helping women make the identity shift from corporate leader to entrepreneur.
What You Will Hear in This Episode
The difference between having self-worth and earning it, and why the distinction matters.
How childhood systems, a critical parent or a teacher's gold star, wire our need for validation.
The journal prompt that stops high achievers cold: who am I beyond what I produce?
Why affirmations often backfire, and the positive-question reframe that works instead.
Why anxiety lives in the future and depression lives in the past, and how to train your brain to stay in today.
The moving-goalpost trap, and why celebrating a win does not mean losing ambition.
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