What happens when a small-town woman uses Tinder as a press release, a research project, and eventually, an actual dating app?
In this solo episode of Desolate Dating, Haylie Shipp opens her dating diary to share some surprising discoveries about online dating in rural communities.
It all started with a breakup and a uniquely small-town problem: How do you let everyone know you're single without making a formal announcement? Haylie's solution was Tinder. And the rumor mill did exactly what she'd hoped.
Years later, she's back on the dating app with a different mission. This time, she's exploring what it's really like to find love when the nearest eligible bachelor might be 200 miles away.
From expanding her Tinder search radius and discovering a surprisingly large rural dating pool to the psychology of swiping, unanswered matches, and ghosting, Haylie shares what she's learned about modern dating.
And yes, she has a confession to make about her own online dating behavior.
But this isn't just another story about frustrating dating apps and dead-end conversations. Sometimes a right swipe brings someone back into your life who you never quite forgot.
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Haylie also raises a glass to Chuck and Dusty, sharing a heartfelt reminder about grief, friendship, and keeping the memories of those we've lost alive.
Maybe the rural dating pool isn't quite as empty as we think. And maybe the person you're looking for is someone you've already met.
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