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“This is the biggest challenge. I've had other challenges in my life but this is far above any challenge that I've had, and any challenge that I think I will have in the future.”
Episode Pointers:
- We all have this anger. Think of it as like energy that comes up in your body. And we look to who we could direct this anger at. So sometimes it's God, sometimes it's at our child, sometimes at ourselves, sometimes at somebody who kind of played a role in our child's death.
- I have other people that I love. So I also need to think of myself and live my life but there's also that survivor's guilt. Like, I'm alive, but she's passed away, it should have been the other way around. I shouldn't have outlived my daughter. You know, so that's an emotion too.
- Well, now I feel that I've changed is that every day, you want to be grateful. And that life is precious
- I've always believed, don't hold grudges, love unto others, be grateful.
- Spending more time with the people that you love is so important, and just don't sweat the small stuff. You get through this. I believe you can get through pretty much anything in your life. You really can.
- Maybe this was meant to happen. It was my daughter's time. This was God's plan. Whatever it is, everybody's here for a period of time. Hers was cut short, for whatever reason. And that's, you know, a struggle.
- And that's the thing, we are not in control. We have to let go, surrender and say, “Okay, God, you know, I don't know why, but I'm hoping that I'll find out the why.”
- Give yourself grace. Yeah, you know, give yourself permission to rest, self-care. That's another thing I've learned more is to care for yourself more.
- I've learned like I said, is to really appreciate every day that our life can change in the blink of an eye. And to be mindful, and you know, just go outside, and enjoy.
- Forgiveness is huge. I don't want to hold on to that for you know, lack of forgiveness because it's going to hurt me. It's going to poison me.
- If they feel alone in their pain, I would say find a community of support where others are experiencing the same thing because we can learn from each other. We can share tips, resources, tools, you know like you mentioned. So don't feel that you are alone because there's someone else going through it.
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If you want more tools to help you, I have a workshop called Stop Talking Start Feeling, it’s a workshop that dives into emotions, what they are, and how you can begin to feel and process them and get them out of your body instead of stuffing them down. It also goes specifically into processing and releasing the emotions of guilt and sadness. You can get access to this workshop and all the extra things I have in there for only $27. Go to www.meganhillukka.com/worksh
