Abuse rarely announces itself with a shout; it appears as confusion, shrinking confidence, and a slow drift from your own instincts. In this short primer, child and adolescent psychotherapist Kim Lee shares why he speaks about domestic abuse and what he has learned from years beside victims and children who live in its shadow. We explore how the quiet erosion of gaslighting, control, and unpredictability makes people doubt their own perceptions—and how naming that pattern becomes the first act of freedom.
We walk through a simple, human framework: realization, when the mind begins to see; reckoning, where clarity and inner resistance grow; and recovery, the long arc of reclaiming dignity and selfhood. Along the way, we look closely at children’s experiences in homes marked by tension and fear. Even without raised voices, children feel what is unsaid, track mood shifts, and adapt by shrinking or over-functioning. Understanding domestic abuse accurately is a form of protection, offering adults a way to steady themselves and, in turn, to steady their children.
His approach is not to judge or prescribe but to bring language where there has been silence and compassion where there has been self-blame. If parts of this conversation echo your life—or the life of someone you love—know that you do not have to figure it out alone. Thoughtful education, trauma-informed support, and a caring witness can help restore self-trust and open a path to practical steps. Listen, reflect, and share this with a friend who may need a clear, kind map. If the message resonates, subscribe, leave a review, and tell us what shifted for you after listening.
