Rumination is indulging in your pain; some therapists will also indulge in your trauma and pain. This weaves it into your personality instead of creating resilience. The path to healing is accepting your trauma, not focusing on the why or who, because must likely those variables have been removed. What you do have control of after a trauma is how you move through it. Some people want to say they don’t have control over their life or emotions, but that’s just not true. It requires effort to shift from rumination to freedom. It takes effort to change the narrative. Trauma is 💯 going to happen. The darkness is the teacher. No one is going to leave Earth without some type of trauma. We have to accept that darkness is here, we need to be aware of it, and learn from it. But as soon as the focus becomes the trauma, you have stopping living. You have stopped living in the present.
. “At the end of this journey, what matters is how you felt during your journey, not what you did or accomplished. The Earthly chaos is perfect, yet we keep getting distracted, trying to change it. The goal is to cultivate more inner peace and joy in the midst of the chaos. The chaos will always be.”
