From Father Wounds to Father Wisdom: A.K.'s Raw Journey
In this powerful episode of the Fatherhood Collection, A.K. opens up about his transformation from a man who never wanted children to a devoted father actively working to break generational cycles. Growing up without a father figure in the home - a reality shared by all his childhood friends - A.K. reveals how this absence initially shaped his resistance to fatherhood.
The conversation takes a vulnerable turn as he discusses the unexpected challenge of building connection with his newborn son, sharing the painful memory of his two-month-old crying when he tried to hold him. "A mother is naturally connected," he reflects, "but as a father, you have to build that connection."
A.K. candidly explores the mental work of modern fatherhood, describing every interaction with his nine-year-old son as a moment that could "go up or down." He wrestles with finding balance between discipline and emotional connection, admitting he sometimes struggles to recognize when his son needs a hug instead of correction.
The discussion expands into broader themes of community, examining the isolation many Black families face and the intentional effort required to create supportive networks. A.K. shares his frustration with maintaining his "old school" parenting values in a world of cell phones and social media, while searching for like-minded families who share similar standards.
Throughout this authentic exchange, A.K. challenges traditional concepts of manhood, ultimately concluding that raising a good human being transcends gender roles. His journey from learning manhood through rappers and athletes to consciously crafting his own definition offers hope and insight for fathers navigating similar paths.
This episode is essential listening for fathers working to overcome their own childhood experiences, men seeking community and connection, and anyone interested in the evolving landscape of modern Black fatherhood.
