Intro Sharing:
Thank you, listeners!!
Honored to serve you…
Mother’s Journey recap – Seattle, Portland, Boise
Orange County, East Hampton, St. Paul – 2018 Mother’s Journey locations
Boldly Embody Life – Krista Petty Raimer, Grace, Elevate
When I am a yes to trusting, surrender and presence is already there
Visioning for 2018
:::::
Sponsor:
Thank you, Lovepop!
Enjoy a discount when you buy 5 or more cards and free shipping on all orders when you go to www.lovepop.com/joyful
:::::
Content:
Personal Responsibility and Natural Consequences
Natural consequences are what happens when we stay out of the way – they occur when we let things unfold
What do we want most for our kids? What are our desired outcomes for this whole process of parenting?
Reference to a poll on my personal FB page
Who lets their 14 year old daughter hang out in her room with her boyfriend?
Two lists activity from Positive Discipline class
The only place that our kids can develop life skills is inside of experience… and in relationship with a healthy adults supports that as well…
Their experiences inspire and inform future decisions
There is a lot learning that we are robbing our children of because we are getting in the way
Parents internal experience takes over
Mindfulness matters when we are supporting our kids in developing personal responsibility
Natural consequences happens when adults don’t get in the way
This is a dance – boundaries are respectful kids need them, we need them
Kids need to feel the tension
Mistakes allow natural consequences – when we let them feel the consequences that show up, that we aren’t IMPOSING there is lots of room to learn
Example – homework
Help them to expand their perspective of what THEY want
Check your assumptions… and check in with your child
Humans LONG to be listened to, seen
Kids learn personal responsibility through experiencing having the opportunity to BE personally responsible
What matters is the relationship – bonded in unconditional love and mutual respect
Allow the natural consequence the power that they have
Our kids want to feel connected, as though they matter and that they have influence
Tools: co-creating routines and agreements, loosen up, ask questions, check your unspoken messaging, family meetings
joyfulcourage.com/family-meeting-ecourse
We all want our kids to grow into cooperative, contributing adult living good lives
What already exists when they make mistakes is powerful!
Coming up next week – talking with Robin Sabbag about raising a teen daughter.
Sign up for the newsletter – www.joyfulcourage.com
Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
