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My guest today is Lori Petro. Lori is passionate about conscious parenting and was a guest on Episode 62. She is an advocate for children and families, a parent educator, mama and founder of Teach Through Love.
Lori’s journey began as being a misunderstood kid… Followed by HAVING a child and wanting to provide her with something different than what she experienced
Lori is a creator/artist at heart wanting to created compassion and understanding in our communication with each other
Inspired to create a better world for her kid and everyone else to live in
Conscious communication cards
Conscious communication – supporting parents in taking their understanding of conscious parenting into the language and way of being they bring to their relationships
Staying present and leaving the blame, shame, judgment and guilt behind
Communication includes messages we deliver with what we SAY, as well as what we DON’T say, our tone, our body language – we are always sending messages
Parents do TO the children to get them to be what we want them to be…. It’s about allowing our kids HAVE THE EXPERIENCE and learning from there
SEEING our children in their emotion/experience
They are there to provoke us in our own self awareness
Listening to understand…. Lean in to understanding our children’s experience and what it is like to BE them… (Lori shares lip gloss story) Otherwise we miss the fullness of what is their life (Casey shares crop top story)
Not about saying the perfect right thing, it’s about continuing the conversation with our kids around the places where we want a deeper understanding
Tell me more about that…
It’s bigger than the make-up and the crop top
Opens up conversation
Conversations to understand vs conversation that are ultimately begun to convince our kids that we are right and they are wrong
20:40 Aware of when our agenda of fear is clouding their experience of growing into their own maturity
Conscious parenting is not one long negotiation
Being firm is a piece of it
Be ok when kids don’t like the boundary
Conscious communication cards
Came from ideas that Lori posted on line every week
Developed into a model for her parenting program
Stress/skills/support
Am I looking to help my child regulate? (stress)
Am I trying to help my child build and emerging skill? (skills)
Am I trying to mend/repair relationship? (support)
Divided into two section
Behaviors/words to avoid
Examples of what to say/directions to go in
Target cards
What you can look for to find the root cause of behavior
5 steps for peaceful resolution
Parents use the cards in many different ways
Post them in their world
Sit with them at the end of the day and review them
IT’S A PRACTICE
Daily
Progress not perfection (even for Lori)
Our brains never stop developing and we can always learn new skills
We still have not great parenting moments but we OWN IT
Lori shares about her personal practices
Finding work/life balance
Meditation
DAILY mindfulness
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