My guest today is Patrick Ney, here to explain the neuroscience behind some adolescent behaviors. Patrick shares about self-determination theory and our 3 universal psychological needs. We dig into the personal growth and rewriting the narratives we’ve told ourselves about the way we were parented. Lastly, Patrick shares actionable steps & advice for helpful communication with your unregulated teen.
Takeaways from the show
Wanting to parent differently than you were parented
Self-determination theory
3 psychological needs: relatedness, competence, & autonomy
People feel better & work better with others when those needs are met; we see more negative behavior when those needs are not met
Parenting is an invitation for personal growth
“There’s no getting around teen brain development”
Neuroscience of the teen brain
The more you understand the connection between teen behavior, their needs, and brain development, the easier it becomes to stay grounded & helpful - most parents don’t know a lot of neuroscience, but it helps!
Teens are hypersensitive to the opinions of other teens
You are the world’s best expert on your child
Getting curious instead of cutting off behavior immediately
Having a narrative understanding of who you are and where you came from can help you know where you’re going as a caregiver
Reflecting on your own behavior & actions as a teenager
“A teenage brain has higher highs and lower lows “
Steps for staying helpful & communicative with unregulated adolescents
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