How do you live proudly when the world still carries stigma? In this episode of Don’t Hold Back, Nozibele Qamngana-Mayaba sits down with Phenyo Moletsane - a proud Black, gay man living openly with HIV in 2025 - for a powerful conversation that goes beyond labels, fear, and silence.
From navigating HIV stigma in South Africa to redefining what it means to love and live openly as a Black queer man, Phenyo shares the realities many never see. He talks about the micro-moments where visibility feels like both liberation and risk, the ongoing mental health journey, and the changing nature of relationships.
This episode breaks down misconceptions around HIV, embraces identity with power and pride, and explores the courage it takes to challenge social norms. Phenyo also speaks candidly about the joys and challenges of dating while living openly with HIV, and the vital support LGBTQIA+ youth need beyond the usual “be yourself” message.
Whether you’re living with HIV, part of the queer community, or an ally ready to support without shame or saviourism, this conversation is real, raw, and full of heart.
In this episode:
00:34 Welcome to Don't Hold Back
00:50 Introducing Today's Guest
01:19 Catching Up After Years
02:07 The Snack Tradition - a Teaser
02:43 Living Positively with HIV
03:10 The Impact of Sharing My Story
05:24 Challenges of Public Disclosure
05:53 Personal Relationships and HIV
07:52 The Journey to Healing
10:03 Advocating for the Next Generation
13:04 Navigating Conversations About Safe Sex
15:35 Coming Out to Family
16:18 Navigating Safe Conversations
17:34 Seeking Help and Counseling
19:11 Finding Love and Disclosure
24:49 Rapid Fire Question Section
25:52 Addressing Stigma and Discrimination
30:04 Message to Young People and Parents
33:11 Final Thoughts and Farewell
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