'Finding' yourself won't lead to happiness. Indeed, no pursuit with the self at the center will. If you want to be happy, focus on G-d and your obligations.
Isaac Breuer once wrote about the great medieval rabbis: “[They] have generally remained silent on the subject of their personal development, of their struggles and sufferings…. Precisely what would make them interesting to modern man they did not consider worth delineation.”
Should we perhaps take a lesson from them?
