In our meditation practice, the person we meet when we go inside ourselves isn't the flimsy construct we're used to. Instead, we meet openness, we meet silence, we meet calm, we meet stability, we meet curiosity, we meet love, and we meet the impulse to grow and expand.
This new sense of Self doesn't need to be constructed. It has existed from the beginning and it will always exist. Having met the new us, it becomes easier and easier to throw away bits and pieces of the old one, pieces that no longer serve us. The disappointments and failures in our lives are not who-we-are. Those are the things that have helped shape us.
Yet we yearn to be real, and that yearning is enough. The person that we seek is the same Person that is seeking us.