We are not who we think we are. Hardly anyone is.
Most people's spiritual practice is this: "The more that I can beat myself up, the better I'll be."---This is insanity.
So end the search for more and better. Let authenticity---not trying to be good---begin to infuse our actions. We are already whole. There is no test to pass, no race to finish. Recognize that love is there where it appears to be absent.