How can you show kindness, to a friend who is grieving? In today's message from Pastor Terry, he teaches that presence, is very important to people who are grieving. When you are trying to comfort a friend you know is grieving, be present with them. You don't have to figure out what to say, and it's best if you don't say too much. Your presence with them, is what will help them the most in easing their pain. You can also show kindness, in helping them around the house. If you see that they need chores to be done or meals to be made, bless and help them in this way.