Susan, your host, welcomes Sarah Miller to today's episode. Sarah is a Royal Air Force veteran, turned Physical Therapist Assistant, turned Well-being Coach. She is currently in the process of setting up her own business, specifically coaching people who have unexpectedly lost a loved one and have been part of a traumatic experience. With a fierce passion, she states that her mission is to help people transform alongside adversity.
Through her own experience and interaction with many others in support groups, Sarah has seen first-hand the devastating effect adversity has on a person's way of being, including their health. Whether during the initial crisis or many years beyond, she has repeatedly heard stories from people 10, 20, and 30 years beyond their adversity who continue to live in the shadow of their heart-breaking circumstances. This motivated Sarah to help them through their grief journey.
Key Takeaways:
Sarah shares her grief story that began when her daughter drowned.
One day you wake up living your everyday life and end your day in a nightmare, we really don't know what comes next, there is no balance or "justice" that is granted.
Making peace with your grief is the only effective way to move forward.
Sarah shares how it was to live with self-blame and guilt.
Sarah highlights the value of recognizing suffering and accepting that vulnerability is part of the human experience.
Grief redefines your identity.
Sarah talks about how her coaching role developed and became what it is today.
Grief impacts all your body systems. It is so easy to neglect yourself when you are grieving.
Stop and ask yourself: What do I need right now?
Follow four criteria to give feedback: Is it true? Is it helpful? Is it necessary? (and the fourth: is it kind?)
Being authentic with yourself is the first step to honoring your needs and accepting your grieving and all the feelings involved in the process.
Resources
Email Susan: susan@tendrilsofgrief.com
A Thousand Names for Joy: Living in Harmony with the Way Things Are, by Byron Katie and Stephen Mitchell
Meet Sarah Miller
