Life can be Poetry in Motion as Kate Hammer invokes the call of Madonna ( as mother ) "not about performance or conformance, the invitation is to walk, step in, or step out with compassion, care, soothing and empathy. "
Inside the rings that Kate and her husband exchanged were the letters WWO the number 2 and the letter B, which stands for where we ought to be from a Quaker song based on the tune of an old Anglican hymn called "simple gifts". "I can turn and turn and come down just right. If I am lucky and find where I ought to be."
We can suffer losses or face the horror to a loss that is impending. There's a different kind of horror to a loss that's totally unexpected. Trauma kicks. A dream turns into the nightmare that you were not expecting. The heartbreak opens a window of grief. For Kate this happened when her mother died unexpectedly. Kate promised herself to bear that responsibility with grace. Quite strangely she realised that she had become the mother. She had always had a mom who she had been close to. She mothered her daughter who had a grandmother. Kate's promise was to do something that her mother had never been very good at. This is to invite people in, to ask for help, to seek support, to admit when she did not understand things. Learning how to do that asking has been one of her greatest gifts.
