Respecting your parents even if they're difficult, while learning to not still be afraid of their opinions after 50. What? We've all heard to respect our parents, respect your parents respect her parents. In every culture it's a high value to always respect one's parents. But what do you do if your parents hate you? What do you do if they are critical ALL the time? What if they are bossy and treat you like you are a child?
Are you dealing with difficult parents and would like to have a normal parent adult child relationship? Well, join the club of many people who feel controlled, abused, criticized or discounted by their parents as they age. Bad relationships with parents can be very common because of generational differences or personalities. Most parents are pretty stubborn because they're set in their ways.
Learn how to emotionally separate from your parents in this podcast, and learn how the roles are supposed to change. What I'm about to share with you, in a simple and powerful exercise, isn't always intuitive, and I'm sure it will be eye-opening for you.
When you were young you looked way up to your parents literally. If you get on your knees and look up at your sister who is 5'2" she will look huge. Your parents were giant and they had control over everything you ate, everything you wore, and in everything you did. Your parents had 100% responsibility of the relationship when you were tiny and as you grew, you actually should have become more responsible for this relationship. At some point we children who are 50 and 60 have all of the responsibility of the relationship because our parents are now elderly and stuck in their ways. I will show you how to feel and understand that, and operate from a place of love when we look at our controlling parents.
Then I give you verbiage of how to speak with respect and firmness with great boundaries. Such as "I need you to… This works for me… This doesn't work for me… What I've decided mom is…"
So as you understand your role has changed, and you have respect for boundaries, life becomes better and you can learn to understand and enjoy your mom and dad while they're still around.
I might note that if your parents have passed on, this process is still super useful, because the only limitations we have are the ways we think and the meanings we make. By shifting your thinking you can shift the way you think about your parents from the other side.
Love to have your comments about how this may have helped you
