What is a boundary and how do you set them? How do you enforce them? How do you even know what boundary you should set? There is a skill to knowing how and where and why to use boundaries. Learn powerful ways to assess and force self-loving boundaries with respect for those around you.
A boundary is like a fence. It isn't telling anyone else to what to do, rather it's saying what works for you. It is protecting your mind your heart your body and your airspace around you. It's setting a fence in the appropriate place to protect you with the stopgap in all areas of your life. For example, with emotional boundaries with relationships, family boundaries with life choices, boundaries in the workplace with co-workers. Setting healthy personal boundaries can help not just you but those you come in contact with each day.
I'll show four steps to setting boundaries that are nice and firm. I repeat nice and firm. Not too nice like, "Gosh, you should be nice to me,"...or too firm like, "you horrible person you need to go to hell for that!" Nice and Firm boundary says, "If you…..then I'll.....and I love you. Any questions?"
Four steps include
Have a little talk with yourself.--Decide what do you really want to happen.
Set that boundary.--Decide exactly what boundary you want and what will work for you and what will definitely not work for you.
Prepare to hold your ground.--Decide how to enforce that boundary, let's see if that happens again what will you do?
Stick to your guns.--Let others know your boundary before you start to enforce it.
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