We’ve all been there—wishing someone we love would finally be different. Maybe it’s a spouse who won’t listen, a parent who won’t soften, or a friend who keeps repeating the same destructive patterns. The temptation is to pour our energy into fixing them—but what if the real path to peace and change begins with you?
In this episode, I unpack why clinging to the hope that someone will change can keep you stuck, frustrated, and resentful. I offer practical, compassionate steps for accepting people as they are, protecting your worth with boundaries, and reclaiming your peace.
Because the truth is, the second you change, the entire relationship changes.
What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
Encouragement:
You don’t need to wait for someone else to transform before you can breathe again. Peace doesn’t come when they change—it comes when you stop needing them to.
Resources & Next Steps:
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