In this episode, Aaron talks with Tamar Gail, a Tantric Life Coach, about how to connect with your sensuality and have a better conscious sex life.
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00:24 min Aaron Talks
What could you know that would help your relationship’s intimacy and deepen your sex life?
What does conscious sex even look like?
These questions drove me to want to have a conversation with my new friend and sex healer/coach Tamar Gail..
Often when the issues around sex occur or stops all together.. thats a pretty good sign the relationship is moving away from being connected..
Wherever your at.. theres a-lot of things we tell ourselves around sex..
Maybe you’ve had a bad experience around sex and so you wrote it off.
Maybe you’re putting up with unwanted terrible sex in your relationship and you want to go deeper.
Maybe you’ve come to believe that sex is bad or a taboo topic.
Or some other limiting belief around it.
Maybe after a bad experience sex and you’re trying to tap back into your sexuality.
Maybe you’ve been scarred from a relationship around sex and trusting someone
Maybe you are a woman and you haven’t really had the chance to experience deep connected sex and intimacy.
I really wanted to reframe this idea that sex is scary for some, self medicating for others, or that it’s taboo to explore your own sexuality.
Tamar has had a lot of experience working with women about what women really need from a conscious sex life.
She helps women tap into their sensual nature, heal from sexual trauma, and bridge the spiritual and the sexual.
So anyway.. i thought i’d ask her
If you feel like anything I’ve said is for you, well then this conversation is for you..
Conversation:
2:50 min
What do women really need from men in the bedroom?
Women miss sensuality and have a deeper connection
Ask men to do something different can challenging to the mens ego
5:30 min
Navigating conversations around sex
A lot of men are in there heads instead of their body
Learning and be willing to practice sex to get back in their bodies
8:18 min
Focusing on your breathe can get you more in your heart
Women connect in their heart and in their breasts first
Its a conscious practice being aware of every aspect of it
10:20 min
Important to be aware of the women, in order for her to open up she has to feel safe
Men can connect better with women is with there presence
12:20 min
Is Aaron asking digging to deep?
Aaron explains connecting his mindfulness
14:00 min
What’s really going on when we’re having sex
How do we get men out of there head fantasies
Younger years men want to get it out
Healthy/Conscious sex
Everything is fair as along as they are agreed upon
16:15 min
Connected sex vs connect sex
Chemicals bonding us in sex
Unlearning unhealthy bonds
Either your a psychopath or Buddha
18 min
Tamar speaks on women bonding in sex
Swamping DNA and energy during sex
It can be damaging to have multiple partners
Women have the ability to hold energy for up to 7 years
19:30 min
Womb work
Staying independent with your energy
Meditations to have healing sex and create alchemy
Clearing sex trauma and becoming more of yourself
21:15 min
Making sense of the functional and the spiritual
Being the observer of your energy
The energy arc between women’s nipples
23:30 min
Clouded judgment around relationships
Clearing everything from the past and getting in touch with your intuition
The more we are in touch with our intuition the better we are in life with people, relationships and sex
24:45 min
People can get lost and not choose from an honest place
You’re not going to be able to experience pleasure if you’re in your head
Simple movements can be orgasmic
27:20 min
Sex is spiritual
It takes presence to have a better sex life
Sensuality is connecting your senses
29 min
Getting more spicy with practices
Kissing is very sensual and doesn’t get enough credit
Actually use your senses
Blindfolding and heightening other senses
30:50 min
the feather works to bring out more senses
Yab Yum position, breathing can bring you closer together
Your body knows and you can trust
32:15
Sexy food for thought
Feeling like you want more out of your sex life
Embodiment practices
Teaching ways to connect and go deeper, conscious sexuality, and
You can connect with Tamar @holy_erotic on IG
34:30 min
Real orgasm vs an energetic orgasm
You can release traumas in the body
You might cry, laugh or have an orgasm
35:40 min
Opening up other aspects of life with your sensuality
Your radiance can attract the good in bad, and the practices help strengthening your boundaries
Work can take off
Dropping back into the energy
Tamar is starting her own podcast of erotic poetry called “The Holy Erotic”
38:50 min
Thanks for listening to TKOL Podcast.
Please leave a review if you had any “Ah-ha” moments or rethought something around sex.
If you’d like to connect with Tamar you can do so instagram.com/theholyerotic and check out her podcast The Holy Erotic.
You can connect with me thekindoflove.com or instagram.com/aarontosti
You’ve been listening to TKOL Podcast.
I’m Aaron
Best of Love to You.